Friends

I hope I am this kind of friend though imperfect in every way.  Friends are imperfect and all of this is to be respected any way. 

The following are random thoughts.  They are not put together in a nice little perfect package.  I love it if you are someone reading this and can read it and appreciate it for it's imperfections in that way.

I love "friends" who allow me to be myself no matter what!  As long as I am not hurting them, not breaking the law, and doing everything I know I am suppose to do in life.  I love it when friends just let me be me.

I love it when friends don't think I am trying to compete with them.  Life can be difficult and sometimes it's just a fight to stay alive, healthy and survive. 

I appreciate it when friends don't hate me or be jealous of me when I try to better myself in any area of life.  I love it when they don't criticize me in their thoughts about me and think I think I am better than they.

I love friends who don't judge me, don't try to change me, don't try to control me, don't try to own me, or who don't try to figure me out all the time.  They just love me for me.  If they aren't confident in themselves that's not my fault.  If they are insecure that's not my fault.  I can respect them in all their weaknesses I hope they can me also.

I love it when friends are not paranoid about me or think that I am sneaky or doing something strange or illegal just because I am quiet, into my work and focused not on them.  Sometimes in life there's a race against time and it's a matter of life, death and survival when you are working on something.  I love it when friends respect me in those ways.

I love it when I KNOW I don't have to perform for friends like a trick dog or circus animal and that I can be totally comfortable and relaxed in their presence.  I am a giver, a positive person and am always there but I am not you and you are not me...we both have our lives to live.  I like friends like that.

I love it when friends have enough respect for me and know that when I am being totally quiet, staying to myself, working on long projects that are a necessity in my life that they don't try to put me on their schedule, or think that I am ignoring them, or unfriendly or crazy...just because I am intensely working on something.

Friends don’t put friends in a little tiny box and fence them in to their agenda.  They give them free reign just as God gives us free reign.  We can hope and pray for them to do their best but it’s up to them to make their choices.  Love and friendship are give and take and accept unconditionally as long as both have respect for each other that they are who they are and can’t be somebody else.

I've come to a place in life where my freedom is more important that anything.  I am not selfish or controlling and I an doing the best I can.  Nor do put these kinds of trips on others  I appreciate good friends who are the same with me.  I hope I'm never a burder to friends.  And if I'm in your life at one time or another I am there because God put me there whether you believe it or not and I am a quiet inspiration.....and always in prayer. 

That's why I love to laugh.  It take the stress off the things I know.  Sometimes I know I know too much and wish I didn't know some of the things I know and like the Prophet Jeremiah the weeping prophet life is filled with horrible things...things that need prayer and without those prayers things would be even more horrible.  I love friends that can respect me and not try to figure me out or judge me for how God uses me.  Many of those things in the spirit world in warfare many...mulitudes will never know the battles fought in the spirit through prayer. 

I love friends and people who don't put me on a trip and don't put their trip on me.  And if I have to say no to an invite a thousand times that they won't hold it against me but will get on with their life and respect me for saying no, or no I can't, or can we play it by ear.

I love friends who know they don't have to be my mother.  They respect that I had a mother.  My mother died at an early age and left me in my twenties so I got on with life because life does go on and I had to go on.  Friend respect my mother enough knowing she did a wonderful job raising me and I don't need a friend to be my mother. 

I appreciate all the kindness, love, giving and friendship like two girls that just like to have fun and help each other but my mother did a good job and I just need friends now that let me let them be them and let me be me.

I've heard that men don't like women who try to change them or mother them.  I now know that women are like that too.

Can you find a friend like this?  I know one..His name is Jesus,  He loves me just the way I am and He loves you and me completely.

I love him and try to be a good friend to Him and others.  I know He KNOWS my heart, and KNOWS I am trying, and KNOWS my future.

I know I am very laid back in some parts of my life from the stand point and perspective of others and I know this bugs the crap out of them sometimes about me.  But trust me, I am following the Lord Jesus Christ and I am on HIS schedule, not mine not yours, not anyone else's.  If you don't understand that I'm sorry.  If you
don’t like it that’s okay.  But,  please respect me for me if for nothing else.  I respect you for you whether you believe in my God or not. 

I KNOW people have judged me and looked at my situation and think to themselves they are much smarter than I and have it way more together than I.  That' okay.  That is okay but what they don't realize is that I am following the Lord and when things don't always seem perfect in my life it's not that I have done wrong or that I am not smart. 

You are being led by the Spirit of God and He will allow you to look like a fool for Him in life at times.  But when you come out on top hopefully people will remember you for the person who went through some hell to get where you are and the Glory will go to God not anyone else, not even you.  If they don't want to believe that or understand that, there is nothing you can do about it!  Love them anyway, forgive them anyway, pray for them anyway.  All your sins have been forgiven.  How hard is it to forgive others when Jesus stretched out His arms for you and died.  It's a small thing to forgive.  I know, difficult at times, but necessary as a maturing Child of the Most High.  God will allow others to get by with stuff that He won’t allow you to get by with.  But in the end they never got by with it either.

I hope I have been a good friend and been there to uplift, encourage, inspire, pray and let my friends be totally themselves around me.

We may not agree on everything.  We are totally different individuals made in the image of God.  You are unique, I am unique, your child, your children, my child are all unique.  If you are married both husband and wife are totally unique.  All are loved unconditionally by God.  He is the only one allowed to put a trip on anyone, but He is not like that.  He gives us His Word and we are drawn closer to Him by His Word.  He is hoping we don't put trips on others. 

Politics aside.

Everything I have said here is not perfect.  Only God is perfect.  But His perfect LOVE casts OUT fear and we are able to walk in life without fear.  That is hard to do at times because life is so uncertain.  It is in those uncertain times that we have to trust Him the most.  We can know one thing for certain and that IS HIS LOVE FOR US!  He will never leave us nor forsake us.  Imperfect friends may, but they have their own problems and issues and they tried, did the best they could and God will bless them for it even if they don’t believe in Him.

All for now.  Thank you for reading...listening....accepting these thoughts of mine.  God bless!

Love, Wandafay

 

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